Why I’ve given up coaching and what I’m doing instead
When I shifted my business online late last year (after having a successful “bricks & mortar” business for many years) I entered into a competitive online world filled with many other young, female entrepreneurs who had similar offerings to me.
The more I learnt about business, the more amazing “coaches” I discovered, and the more I felt as if I had nothing of value to offer in comparison to them. I was suffering with major self-doubt about whether I would ever be good enough to compete with all these incredible women who were so much more perfect than I was.
I went through a period where I felt like I had to emulate their amazingness, to try and be as gorgeous, fit and dedicated to wellness as them. It was tiring.
Trying to be someone that you’re not is a soul-sucking exercise!
I found this out the hard way.
In the end it was you, my incredible clients and readers that reassured me that I was in fact changing your lives and helping you to achieve the results that you’ve been craving, all while being my own true self.
I’ll probably never be a green juice fuelled, beach-dwelling, blissed-out yoga-babe… well maybe one day. But the truth is that right now I’m a disheveled, highly-strung, rebellious mother of a toddler, who just happens to meditate, eat healthy and do yoga if I have time in amongst running a business, home and family. It’s also truth that I know about quite a few things that can help people and am pretty good an empowering them to make their lives better.
The second I remembered this, I stopped worrying about whether I was instagraming enough of my sleek, spiritual lifestyle and I decided that I needed to embrace my individuality.
My rebellious nature is fierce and strong.
So strong in fact that the very idea of swimming in a sea of other coaches, trying to keep afloat as we all scramble for the shore, suddenly became rather unappealing.
Once I stopped being a “healer” a few years ago, I called myself a “counselor” but I changed myself to “coach” when I moved into the online world. It wasn’t a label that I fully connected with. Even though, I myself have worked with many coaches and am comfortable with the term, it just didn’t seem fitting for me.
So as I made the difficult decision to leave the term “coach” behind, I now had to decide what my thing was going to be.
I considered going back to “counseling”, but that just reminded me of the old days when I was pretending to be someone that I’m not.
So I knew I needed to move forward, trudge ahead, forge my own unique, inspired path once again.
I wasn’t turning up any clarity on this so I went in search of an answer, on Facebook of all places! I wanted to change my title on my Facebook page from “coach” as soon as possible so I logged in and had a look at the other options available to me. At first I chose “writer” but then I settled on “entrepreneur”.
Everything about this word feels right to me. I don’t feel like a fraud or a wannabe. I feel confident, assured and a little spark lights up my heart every time I think about it.
You have to trust those feelings, they’re never wrong.
Then I got to the task of rewriting my “work with me” page and what happened next was quite extraordinary...
I got out of my own way.
I let the words pour out and I free flowed my intentions right there onto the page…. And “Rebellious Mentoring” was born.
It was meant to be. The powerful creative force inside of me took a deep breath and decided to keep it real.
It’s not for everyone. Damn it, I’M not for everyone. My offerings have to reflect that.
I owe it to myself and to you to show you my truth.
If you want to work with me, there is nothing I would love more.
I’m crumpling the grass as I create a whole new path off into the wilderness that no-one saw coming, especially not me. That’s what happens when you open your heart and listen to what it has to say.
That’s what happens when you allow yourself to be fearless and to step outside of what’s expected.
That is what I refer to as, the rebellious spirit. It’s inside all of us, waiting for us to crack open our heart and step off the beaten track.
I’m so grateful that you read this. Thank-you.
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