What to do when you want more love.

Love. It’s probably our main motivator in life. We thrive on it. We need it. Many of us are seeking more of it, often trying to find it using unhelpful habits and attention seeking behaviour. Love is our life force.

Receiving it means that we feel validated and accepted, in caveman times, being accepted as part of a community was vital to survival. Deep down, we know that we need love in our lives.

There are, however a few problems with the way that we can crave and seek out love. Expecting love to be “given” to us by others or “looking for love in all the wrong places” can leave us feeling unfulfilled yet desperate for more.

It is a vicious an exhausting cycle whereby we believe that we need love from others – yet genuine love can difficult to find and almost impossible to sustain.

I have a remedy for this. If you find yourself saying/thinking “I want to be loved”, then I propose a simple change from “I want to be loved” to “I want to be loving”.

One is reliant entirely on other people and one is empowered and self sustaining. And guess what, the feeling generated within us is the same! And when we are loving towards everyone and everything in our lives including ourselves, we have the opportunity to keep that loving feeling going indefinitely.

This is a simple concept yet it’s not one that is widely adopted. We fall into the trap of believing that love needs to come from outside of us rather than enjoying the love that is available within us!

And I’m not just talking about romantic love, I mean love in the sense of gratitude and appreciation for what you have.

So why not give it a try?

Choose to be loving rather than waiting for love to track you down.

You may just find that you enjoy life more than ever!